"I will be happy when. . ."
"Once I graduate college, I will be happy"
"When I am married, I will be happy."
"I cannot wait until this is over, so that I can be happy."
"When I lose weight, I will be happy."
"I won't be happy until I get this job."
STOP. PLEASE. Do everyone a favor and eliminate these phrases from your life. Oh, were you not ready for a blog post about tough love? TOO BAD.
How many times do we sit and think about the things that hold us back from being happy? How many times are those things in our control? One of two things to think about.....if they are not in your control, stop wasting your time throwing a pity party. If they are in your control, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
Okay, hear me out. You are probably reading this post and thinking that I should sit down and shut up, because I have no room to talk. And you are totally right. I am the queen of worry and fear over everything. I have made habits out of wanting things that I do not work for, creating a lot of anger, bitterness and jealousy.
But as I live by myself, I have realized that I have no excuse for not reaching the goals that I want. I have every resource I need. I have stopped creating my own barriers, and have invested in myself. I hope to write more on that later.
Over the last few weeks, I have thought a lot about the fact that you reap what you sow. In church today, the message was the same. The pastor talked about a plant (read about it here) that does not do anything for five years. Could you imagine? Planting a seed and not seeing any growth for five years? As someone who practically begs for instant gratification, this is my personal nightmare. But in the fifth year, it grows at such a fast rate reaching 90 feet.
Maybe right now you feel like you are driving into a wall. You are hitting it, backing up and hitting it again repeatedly. Nothing happens. Until it suddenly falls. All at once.
What are you doing right now that feels like this? Have you been working on something for so long without progress? Do you feel like you are getting no reward for your efforts?
Sometimes, this is life. A simple perspective change could make everything different. Saying that you will only be happy when you reach a certain milestone throws away all of the time and experiences in between. Plus, there is so much joy to be found in the journey. Do not give up. Think about why you want something.
"When I am married, I will be happy."
"I cannot wait until this is over, so that I can be happy."
"When I lose weight, I will be happy."
"I won't be happy until I get this job."
STOP. PLEASE. Do everyone a favor and eliminate these phrases from your life. Oh, were you not ready for a blog post about tough love? TOO BAD.
How many times do we sit and think about the things that hold us back from being happy? How many times are those things in our control? One of two things to think about.....if they are not in your control, stop wasting your time throwing a pity party. If they are in your control, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
Okay, hear me out. You are probably reading this post and thinking that I should sit down and shut up, because I have no room to talk. And you are totally right. I am the queen of worry and fear over everything. I have made habits out of wanting things that I do not work for, creating a lot of anger, bitterness and jealousy.
But as I live by myself, I have realized that I have no excuse for not reaching the goals that I want. I have every resource I need. I have stopped creating my own barriers, and have invested in myself. I hope to write more on that later.
Over the last few weeks, I have thought a lot about the fact that you reap what you sow. In church today, the message was the same. The pastor talked about a plant (read about it here) that does not do anything for five years. Could you imagine? Planting a seed and not seeing any growth for five years? As someone who practically begs for instant gratification, this is my personal nightmare. But in the fifth year, it grows at such a fast rate reaching 90 feet.
Maybe right now you feel like you are driving into a wall. You are hitting it, backing up and hitting it again repeatedly. Nothing happens. Until it suddenly falls. All at once.
What are you doing right now that feels like this? Have you been working on something for so long without progress? Do you feel like you are getting no reward for your efforts?
Sometimes, this is life. A simple perspective change could make everything different. Saying that you will only be happy when you reach a certain milestone throws away all of the time and experiences in between. Plus, there is so much joy to be found in the journey. Do not give up. Think about why you want something.
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