"Maybe it's me....
…..and my blind optimism to blame."
A heartbroken, 21-year-old girl from Pennsylvania wrote this lyric after a break up with a man (John Mayer) that everyone told her to stay away from. He was this sort of forbidden fruit; a man that everyone found attractive but would not touch with a 20-foot-pole.
Like Taylor Swift, I have suffered from blind optimism. I typically assume that the grass is greener, push aside any sort of red flag and run towards whatever it is that I have my hopes set upon. Against all odds and any opinions from those around me, I stubbornly pursue whatever it is that I, at one point, said was my goal.
BUT WHY?? Why do we feel the need to do the things that we said we were going to do, even though they are not the best things for us? What are we trying to prove?
Growing up, I was always told to stick to my word. If you start something, finish it. If you say something, do it. If you make a promise, do not break your word. Whether it was joining a team or club or RSVPing to an event, I was always conditioned to follow through.
Most of the time this was said in order to be respectful to a group of people or not let my team down. However, it was also a way to ensure that I meant what I said and said what I meant.
But what happens when that thing that you had your mind set to changed? What if that thing suddenly was no longer beneficial or if it could even harm you?
The answer is pride. We are ashamed when we are called out for not doing the thing we said we would do. And with social media being what it is today, it is almost impossible to dodge questions after posting your desires and not following through.
In previous posts, I have mentioned how I really can't stay decisive and typically backtrack to justify my everchanging mind.
But what happens when you are rejected? What happens when it is not just your blind optimism but just the "maybe it's me" part? How do you react when you tell everyone you are so excited about an opportunity and the door shuts in your face?
You. Move. Forward.
There is more to life that just shooting your shot and getting denied.
You have more control over your life than the people who tell you "no."
And maybe, just maybe, that was your John Mayer, too. You didn't need it, and it may have actually kept you from something AMAZING.
Oh, and if you haven't listened to this song, PLEASE DO YOURSELF A FAVOR AND CLICK BELOW.
"Dear John" by Taylor Swift
A heartbroken, 21-year-old girl from Pennsylvania wrote this lyric after a break up with a man (John Mayer) that everyone told her to stay away from. He was this sort of forbidden fruit; a man that everyone found attractive but would not touch with a 20-foot-pole.
Like Taylor Swift, I have suffered from blind optimism. I typically assume that the grass is greener, push aside any sort of red flag and run towards whatever it is that I have my hopes set upon. Against all odds and any opinions from those around me, I stubbornly pursue whatever it is that I, at one point, said was my goal.
BUT WHY?? Why do we feel the need to do the things that we said we were going to do, even though they are not the best things for us? What are we trying to prove?
Growing up, I was always told to stick to my word. If you start something, finish it. If you say something, do it. If you make a promise, do not break your word. Whether it was joining a team or club or RSVPing to an event, I was always conditioned to follow through.
Most of the time this was said in order to be respectful to a group of people or not let my team down. However, it was also a way to ensure that I meant what I said and said what I meant.
But what happens when that thing that you had your mind set to changed? What if that thing suddenly was no longer beneficial or if it could even harm you?
The answer is pride. We are ashamed when we are called out for not doing the thing we said we would do. And with social media being what it is today, it is almost impossible to dodge questions after posting your desires and not following through.
In previous posts, I have mentioned how I really can't stay decisive and typically backtrack to justify my everchanging mind.
But what happens when you are rejected? What happens when it is not just your blind optimism but just the "maybe it's me" part? How do you react when you tell everyone you are so excited about an opportunity and the door shuts in your face?
You. Move. Forward.
There is more to life that just shooting your shot and getting denied.
You have more control over your life than the people who tell you "no."
And maybe, just maybe, that was your John Mayer, too. You didn't need it, and it may have actually kept you from something AMAZING.
Oh, and if you haven't listened to this song, PLEASE DO YOURSELF A FAVOR AND CLICK BELOW.
"Dear John" by Taylor Swift
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